I want to thank everyone who replied. I did some research on most of these and think PurelyMail is the winner for me. Feel free to correct me if I got some details wrong. I want to give a shoutout to @mbirth for mentioning Disroot, which looks like a really interesting experiment in federated services.

Also, I know this post is really bending the rules for c/selfhosted, but connecting your selfhosted services to an email provider is essential, and having a reliable and affordable email provider just makes this weird hobby of ours a little easier.

I’m liking what I’m seeing here! Most other services try to be like Google, where you can’t get a mail account without also paying for drive, calendar, office, etc. All I want here is an email service, and this looks good and cheap for that.

I’m still learning myself, but am planning to use NetBird instead of Tailscale to access my VMs and apps without exposing them to the web. So far, it’s been pretty easy to set up.